It's Not Personal....

Today's post comes from a recurring thought today that I had come into my mind.
I think most of us when some type of issue, conflict, problem and even apparent rejection arises, it is taken on board as personal. That the person has done whatever the instance is on purpose with intent to harm and hurt us.
I think the relevation that is of importance is that it is only ever personal and of harm and hurt if YOU/WE make it personal!
If we were to step back from whatever the incident is that has occurred - it can be clearly seen that the person this relates to has their OWN issues as to why they have reacted this way to you and has their own circumstances they are dealing with, this accounts for their behaviour to us which may have most likely been taken PERSONALLY.
If we truly believe that it IS personal and an attack upon our character and can see no other way- then I ask that you still step back but then look at yourself....The issue is only personal again because you've made it, but that you are still not able to shake it and shift it means that it has pressed a nerve. Thats ok - but its still not a personal attack from someone else. We now need to take responsibility that it is our sensitivity and the issue that we need to work on ourselves. we would not have felt attacked if we werent already feeling vulnerable about the issue - it would have held no relevance and rolled off our back.

I am not at all excusing bad behaviour such as shouting, swearing, acting badly but the content that is involved is the essence of this discussion.
You can only ever control your reaction to a situation. Therefore choose whether it is positive or negative and choose whether to take it personally or at least learn from the encounter!

Happy Birthday To Me!

Yes today is my birthday! I used to love birthdays! We had so much celebration for them. I always shared my birthday with my cousins and my grandad on one side of the family and my aunty on the other side of the family. I loved it and it always felt like I was celebrating for at least a week.
Though over recent years I haven’t really enjoyed birthdays – some may say that it was because I was getting older and maybe that is the case but I also realised that I used to love the fact that people were celebrating me!
This then has made me reflect…I’m going to enjoy my birthdays again! Not because I want people to celebrate me but I’m going to CELEBRATE ME!!
Yep that’s right. Every year on my birthday from this point I am going to enjoy being ME! Enjoy who I am! Enjoy and celebrate the person that I am and the journey I am having here on earth as this person!
It doesn’t matter who wishes me Happy Birthday or who gives me presents because I will be in such a celebration mode of giving to myself that their blessings are a bonus.
So my birthday list to myself this year will be a massage, a slice of my favourite cake and a scrumptious vegetarian meal with those people near and dear to me.

I hope your next birthday you celebrate and give to yourself too!

So Happy “Birth” Day to ME!!!

Colour Therapy

Over recent weeks I have again been drawn to the way in which colour impacts upon my life and how I use it daily. Lately I have been making a more conscious effort as to the colours that surround me but also how I can use colour to my advantage and how to heal!

So to follow I will briefly describe some of the major colours and what they are useful in addressing and how they can enhance your life.

What is also important is for you to notice when you are drawn to a particular colour, as that is your intuition working for you to send you in the right direction for some type of healing or issue that needs to be assisted with.

Green:
Helps to overcome fear, calms the body and releases frustration and anger. If dealing with issues from your past, use green to help bring harmony into any situation. It helps release negative patterns and beliefs. Green can replenish your energy and helps you to relax and heal.
The colour green increases self-esteem and attracts prosperity and abundance.
It represents fertility, truth, youthfulness, innocence and healing. it can also act as an aphrodisiac and stimulate sexual energy.
Physical Ailments: Revitalises nervous system, heart, thymus, lungs and liver, helps heal broken bones and repair tissue. it can also help with back problems, asthma, colic, insomnia and hay fever.
The issues that can arise from green are envy, jealousy and superstition.

Green is connected to the Heart chakra

Pink:
Pink is connected to unconditional love. it opens the heart and helps it to heal. it assists with self acceptance and helps to release emotional problems. it can assist with the manifestation of dreams.

Pink is the colour for compassion, affection, warmth, friendliness, kindness and gratitude, generosity and nourishment. it can promote tolerance and understanding.

Pink can assist people to work through difficult relationships. It helps those with low self esteem, loneliness and sadness. it has been said that it can help people in mid-life crisis by assisting them to let go of old patterns. It is good to use to assist in relaxing your muscles.

pink assist you to connect to your feminine energy which helps to balance your male and female balance.

Pink assists with similar physical problems as green as they are both connected to the heart chakra.

Too much pink can bring out sentimentality, silliness, desire to control and feeling overemotional.

Yellow:

Yellow represents the intellect and is used for mental stimulation. It relates to clarity and thinking quickly. Yellow is good with assisting decision making, boosting memory, self expression and creativity. it is good with assisting with writing reading, studying and exams. It helps you to let go of negative patterns from the past and release low self esteem. yellow represents happiness, optimism, brightness, abundance, fertility and refreshing.

Physically yellow helps to stimulate and repair cells, purifies the blood, stimulates the lymphatic system and removes waste. it is good for treating diabetes, arthritis, eczema, liver problems, gall bladder, constipation, menstrual pain, menopausal flushes and ear and skin problems.

Too much yellow can lead to over stimulation, exhaustion and depression.
Yellow is connected to the Solar Plexus Chakra

Red:

Red has unlimited energy, heat, vitality and power. It reflects enthusiasm, passion, sensuality, courage, optimism, motivation and achievement. Red assists with attracting money, new opportunities and prosperity into your life.(The Chinese use it often in Feng Shui principles)

red is powerful in treating and healing blood disorders and improving circulation. it warms cold areas in your body and reduces pain. red can help with releasing depression (not an angry depression though), hopelessness and stuckness.

Red can assist you to lose weight, increase your sex drive and rejuvenate your body. It is a grounding colour and assists with gaining a stronger sense of self. Red can help attract a partner

Physically Red affects anaemia, colds (without fever) and constipation.

Contraindications for working with red are high blood pressure, heart conditions, fever and anxiety. too much red can cause you to become easily irritated, frustrated and violent.
Red is connected to the Root chakra

Blue:

Blue helps to soothe the mind. It creates a sense of tranquility, serenity and peace. It helps calm nerves, destroys infections and purifies your aura. It is a colour of patience, faith, acceptance, forgiveness and independence. It can help with detoxifying and skin problems. it counteracts the colour red - so can bring back inflamed and overactive skin and blood.
It contains antiseptic qualities which help to heal burns, stop bleeding and relieve fevers. It can increase metabolism and build vitality
Blue can give you the confidence to speak up and increase your communication skills
Physical ailments it can help: itching, bowel problems, laryngitis, high blood pressure and headaches to name a few.
Though too much blue can affect sadness, cold, tiredness and if you want to lose weight reduce exposure to blue.
Blue is connected to the throat chakra
Brown:
Is the colour of earth, nurturing and stability. This is a colour of healthy boundaries and assists to gain a balanced perspective. it is known for its properties of practicality, patience, mental stability and security.
Too much brown though can create a fear of change and transformation and reluctance to express feelings.
Black:
Is a colour of protection and strength. Although too much back can weaken the body and drain your energy. Sometimes it can stop you from moving forward and keeps you 'stuck'. Black is also connected to discipline, persistence and respect. Use black with other colours to achieve your goals confidently.
Orange:

Orange assists with treating depression and fear. It improves immunity and vitality and awakens sexual and creative energy. Orange symbolises warmth and prosperity and assists in creating feelings of optimism, enthusiasm, determination and courage.

Orange can assist with people dealing with loss, grief and shock.

Orange represents movement and change and being fluid in motion.

Physically Orange works for healing digestive disorders, kidney disorders, the spleen and pancreas. Orange stimulates the appetite and can help with conditions such as anorexia, bowel problems, aide fertility problems and expose hidden anxieties and fears.
Orange is connected to the Sacral chakra

White:

White can heal the whole body. It clears toxicity and purifies. white helps with clarity and understanding and protection and reflection. White is best used to create balance, replenish your spiritual strength. white also assists with clearing negative thoughts and feelings between people.

Physically it is good for healing skin problems. white is also cooling and refreshing. if you overuse white you can feel depleted and washed out.

And My Favourite- Purple:

It creates a connection between mind, body and soul. Purple can bring out leadership qualities and brings hope and success into your life.

Purple can assist with vision, hearing and sense of smell. as well as release negativity and irritation.

purple boosts your immune system and assist in the healing process.

Physically purple helps with skins, rheumatism, bones, kidney, lung and stomach problems. heals inflammation and aide with infertility.

If exposed to too much purple you may lose touch with reality and become depressed. The remedy for purple is gold.
Purple is connected to the Third Eye/ Brow chakra- Indigo and Violet - Crown

Colours are also used in Feng Shui to assist with the energy of a room and to evoke certain feelings and environments within rooms and places. Particular colours are more appropriate for certain rooms - If you have a question about a particular room - post it in the comments section so I can help with your enquiries and to help you create a more harmonious space.

Oh there is so much more to talk about! This is only a brief introduction - These are only a few examples of some colours - there are many more as you are aware and also different combinations of colours.

For further reference there is also a colour therapy system that is called: Aura-Soma. Inna Segal also has a chapter on colours in her book "The Secret Language of Your Body".

So what colour are you attracted to today?

Rainbow Blessings